Failure. Ouch, harsh word right? Everyone has had those moment where nothing seems to be going their way and everything seems just that little bit out of reach. It might be that job you didn’t get after you thought you nailed the interview, or going out with your friends for “one or two” when you know perfectly well your rent is due. Well, we have all been there. But with a new way of thinking we could make these epic fails into mini victories. Here’s how:
1. Admittance is the first step to recovery
When something doesn’t go to plan it’s easy to bury our heads in the sand and wish it never happened. But if we acknowledge that we have failed, we then open ourselves up to solutions and personal growth. It can be hard admitting when you have messed up but owning your mistakes is important. If you freely admit them, people will generally see you as a more honest and humble person, which can’t be a bad thing. Admitting your mistakes early will also make the resolution process much quicker. So to avoid playing the blame game, delaying the resolution time and coming across as an arrogant narcissist who can never admit that they are wrong, just hold your hands up and say “my bad.”
2. Every cloud and all that
A fail once in a while can really open your eyes to the bigger picture. Looking beyond the incident will prevent you from becoming swamped in the negativity of failure. It can make you reevaluate what’s important and what’s not. Don’t panic and stop making mountains out of molehills and you’ll be much more level-headed. Instead of worrying, gain some perspective and start problem solving. Remember the new challenge IS the silver lining and realising that all fails have hidden benefits is a step in the right direction to making every catastrophe into a CANtastrophe.
3. Knowing your limits
Setting realistic goals for yourself and knowing your limits is key to turning fails into wins. It’s unrealistic to sign up for Iron Man when you haven’t done any kind exercise for 5 years and have a minor Greggs addiction. This doesn’t mean you get to shy away from challenges, just that you should never berate yourself for not being able to do something. Failing will help identify and celebrate all the things you know you have achieved and all the areas you have to work on.
4. Light bulb moment
“I have not failed 10,000 times. I have not failed once. I have succeeded in proving that those 10,000 ways will not work. When I have eliminated the ways that will not work, I will find the way that will work.” – Thomas Edison on creating the light bulb. We solute his bright way of thinking. Failure will teach you to problem solve and become more patient with tasks.
5. It’s not that bad
Seriously, it’s probably not the end of the world.
6. When nothing goes right… go left
Failing shapes our character and makes us wise to certain situations which in turn improves our adaptability. Now I know nobody likes change, but being adaptable and resourceful is necessary in all walks of life. It will ensure you are prepared to step out into the unknown and take the necessary action to make the plan come to fruition. The more you fail, the more resilient you will become to change. Innovators change the world- Keep changing it.
7. Got your back
Failing will let you know who is really there for you. Learning who your real friends are is inevitable in the face of adversity and knowing who will pick you up and dust you off can only be a positive thing. Your real friends might have a laugh at your misfortune and poor judgement at first, but will always be on hand to help problem solve. A good support system, be it colleagues, family or friends is a reliable resource that you can tap into for help when times are tough. Surround yourself with people that reflect who you want to be and how you want to feel, energy is infectious.
8. When one door closes…
Every plan has a good plan B. But sometimes even the best plan B won’t cut it. Having the confidence to admit you can’t do something is one thing but coming to terms with it is another. This does however, highlight different avenues you could go down which you may have never considered before. It frees your mind to pursue these possibilities and provides countless opportunities. The fail will exercise the control you have over your attitude towards loss and teach you to be more aware of your options.
9. Buckle down
So, now you have admitted there is a problem, you are looking at the bigger picture, you are honest about your limitations, you have an optimistic outlook on the situation, and you know it’s not that bad, you are ready to work hard and try again. Failure pushes us to try again and try harder! This in turn will develop your work ethic so you will be able to priorities tasks and not hesitate to set new goals.
10. You get another chance to succeed (Or fail)
Either way, it’s a win.